Christina Baldwin, “One to One”, p. 58:
Asking is risk, and it is how human beings grow. To grow gently, respect your own process and pace, the uniqueness of your life experiences, and the reflections you have about them. There will be times in life when outside events cause you to grow with uncomfortable and dramatic swiftness. To have already developed a root of gentleness in your own writing will help you get through these times with as little trauma as possible and still enable you to learn what you need from them. This respect for process is the gift you give yourself, the safety you provide yourself.
No one has a prescribed map you can follow to maturity: we are all making it up as we go along and we learn to notice that the pieces of insight and information we need seem to be there as we need them.